I want more in the sack, she laughs my opinion off and doesn’t change. Now I’m finding myself turned off by her.

I love my wife, but that’s no longer translating to the bedroom. We were together 4 years before marriage, so things cooled down before the “I do’s.” We are coming up on our 1st anniversary, are trying for a baby, and I can’t even stay aroused. Clothes come off, she just lays there, hardly does anything to show interest in sex. To me it has become something of a chore. She thinks just getting any at all should be considered a priveledge and that “just laying there” should be enough for me.

She stopped french kissing me about 3 years ago. There’s no sexual intimacy at all. I’ve voiced that it’s important to me (the guy, yeah – weird right?). She just tells me it’s not for her, and that’s that. I should just accept it and move on. She also expects me to go down on her, which I don’t mind (even like it), but she will NEVER do the same for me. It doesn’t matter that I like it. The once in a blue moon she does do it, she complains and sighs the whole time. And it goes waaay beyond spit or swallow. It’s, “I’ll get you most of the way there, then you have to finish yourself off.”

She’s the least sexually adventurous or giving person in the sack I’ve personally ever heard of. I get jealous listening about other people’s wonderful sex lives. I’m getting worried about us now, because I almost feel like I’m going to find someone else (“cheat”) to fill the void she won’t listen to me about.

Now…baby, house…ugggh.

My husband is a huge loser

I would have never have even wanted to date much less marry my current husband. I’m educated and he’s a lowly labourer. I met him in my mid30s when i was divorced. He was also divorced with a child. His ex is a loser too. They both had no money, she’s a gambler, they both had debts. I was desperate to get married again and have children. I found out after we got married that he has low sperm count. I hate myself sometimes that i married a loser idiot. He’s so stupid that it’s hard having an interesting conversation with him. I regret the day i married this jerk. He’s such a dummy that when we argue i cry because i’m frustrated that i married such an idiot!!! I wish i could divorce him but that would be my second divorce.

My husband is self centered, immature and a drunk.

I am so angry at this point that I am going to explode with such force, that everything within a 100 mile radius of me will be destroyed as well.
My husband and I are both 25. Soon to be 26 in a week. Our birthdays are a day apart.
Why I hate my husband:
1. We are separated, and he manipulates me constantly to keep me from moving on. He is very aware that he is the love of my life and uses that fact to torture and punish me.
2. He claims that he wants to work things out but does nothing to better himself. Everything is my fault and he throws tantrums like a 2 yr old.
3. HIS MOTHER. She is insane. And he defends her every kicking screaming step of the way. She is so insane, she told me that he belongs to her, and should be in fact married to HER. Yes, his mother. Married to his mother. Nothing is ever good enough for this woman. They are all stuck up, pretentious cunts.
4. HE IS SPOILED. He is the most spoiled 26 yr old I have ever met in my life. He has everything handed to him.
5. He forces himself to be miserable. Its his “thing”. He finds reasons to be angry and to hate his life. He actually likes to be miserable. I cant explain it, but it is the strangest thing I have ever seen.
6. He never apologizes. FOR ANYTHING. He will even blatently tell me that he refuses to because I dont deserve it. Ever. for any reason. F*ck you.
7. I am pregnant, and he refuses to acknowledge his unborn son. He threw $200 at me and told me to “take care of it”. What a piece of shit.
8. I am going to be homeless while he sits in a house his parents built and paid for. Right next to theirs. He pays for NOTHING.
9. While I concentrate on fixing our family, attending therapy sessions, and working toward our future, he focuses on things like the new truck he wants, the new bike he wants and his stupid new puppy.
10. HIS FRIENDS.
11. HIS ENTIRE F*CKING EXISTENCE.
F*ck you. I hate you. You ruined my life. Go drink some f*cking bleach you deadbeat asshole.

Probably the worst person I’ve ever met

My husband is probably the worst person I’ve ever met. I’ve never cheated on him or given him any reason to believe I have. He is super controlling, jealous, insecure, and explosive. After stumbling upon an article about sociopaths and doing a lot of research, I am convinced he is a 100% sociopath. He lied to me about EVERY detail of his life when we were dating. He completely fabricated a past, was the victim or hero in every story, faked a laid back personality, and had me completely fooled. Some of his lies didn’t add up in the beginning, but when I’d ask him, he would just cover it up with more lies. Like an idiot, I rushed in and we got married within a few months. Six months into the marriage I started seeing some of the lies come to light but it was nothing too major. Now I realize he spent a lot of time fabricating a job, the details of his day at “work”, conversations with people, events of the day, and so on. Basically everything I didn’t see with my own eyes was false. You can’t call him out on a lie. He denies it at first. Then explodes and brings up anything he can about you to get the focus off him.

Four months into our marriage he turned into a complete asshole. All of a sudden, everything he loved about me was a complaint. I dressed like a whore (I don’t), I show my boobs everywhere I go (they’re D cups, hard to miss), my friends are all whores (that’s not too far off but they’re still my friends), I was a whore (I was single for 10 years, get real), blah blah blah. Every typical, minor disagreement turned into explosive fits of rage. He has broken 4 phones, 3 computers, an iPad, punched holes in doors, and so on. The verbal abuse is ridiculous. I have been called every imaginable name in the book. He’s actually really creative with the combinations of insults he can combine. Everything was a test to see how I would react. If I failed, all hell broke loose.

I’ve been cut to the bone with his words so many times and get this… he doesn’t understand why I’m not affectionate and don’t want him! He doesn’t understand how that could possibly turn me off. And when I don’t want to have sex get this… he throws a fit where I’m told what a fat whore I am. Then he turns around and tells me how sexy and beautiful I am. And all the ugly, mean things are just to hurt me in the heat of the moment. He doesn’t really mean them and all the BS flattery comments should cancel out the verbal abuse.

He tells me what a Christian he is and how well he knows the Bible, but he acts nothing like the husband God commands a husband to be. The only time he ever quotes or references the Bible is to tell me I need to be more submissive or give him the affection due him. If we go to church, he gripes and complains afterwards about only going to do his part to fix this marriage even though I won’t be a Godly wife and submit. I have translated his meaning of submission to mean doesn’t argue, doesn’t question, and always on my back.

He is a veteran and gets 120 Hydrocodone from the VA every month for a back injury. He takes them all within a week. He is so sweeeeeeet and loving when he’s high. But then he drinks and becomes volatile and violent. Then he runs out and has 3 days of irritation. And he’s a miserable dick the rest of the month until next month’s prescriptions come in. He hides his pills from me, denies he has a problem, and tells me it’s none of my business.

He has had over 10 jobs since June 2011. Three different times he has made comments about people accusing him of being on drugs, but it’s just because “he’s working his butt off and they’re not used to seeing that.” He’s lost so many jobs but it’s always someone else talking trash because they are so jealous of his work ethic. It never adds up. He can’t keep a job longer than 2 months but it has nothing to do with him or his pills.

He has a ridiculous arrest record and criminal background. He makes the stupidest decisions when it comes to legal problems. He doesn’t handle his business and when he gets in trouble he goes on a rant about how he fought for this country, everybody is against him, he has crappy attorneys, the prosecutor is an ass, and the expectations of his probation officer are just too ridiculous and he shouldn’t have to follow them. He has opinions about the law and thinks what he believes is fact. He believes the court can’t do certain things to him that it certainly can do. But he lives by his belief and arrogance that nothing will happen. When it all comes crashing down, I am supposed to drop everything, screw off jobs and bills, and jump through hoops to get him out of trouble. His legal problems have ruined our finances and interfered with several of my jobs.

I’m always told my jobs are meaningless and do nothing for our family, even though I was the only one working the first year we were together (he was ‘recovering’ from a back surgery). I am a teacher. I worked in insurance for about a year and a half after I got too embarrassed by his legal troubles and reputation and quit teaching. Before he came along, I had my own house, own new car, a four wheeler, all my bills were paid and I had extra money. He destroyed that in about 6 months. He is the only one that contributes because he can lie in a job interview and get these high paying jobs that last 2 months. We’ve been severely behind on every single bill for a year now but it’s my fault somehow. I wish it was because I was always shopping and getting pampered, but I feel guilty if I buy a $20 shirt.

He claims he has PTSD and has horrible nightmares. I don’t doubt that he does because I sleep with him and it’s hell, but sometimes it just seems like drama. I haven’t had a decent night sleep in 2 years because of his nightmares. Every time he gets violent and stupid it’s always a result of the PTSD and nightmares. We tried counseling twice and each time I got yelled at the entire way home for not being able to just suck it up and deal with it. I’m so sick of even hearing about PTSD when he refuses to do anything to treat it.

I wasn’t with him when he was in the military. I came along years later and bought everything he told me at first. Now I have a hard time believing his military stories because a) I’ve caught him lying about so much other crap it’s ridiculous, b) he can’t keep his stories straight, forgets he told me the story before, and underestimates my incredible memory, and c) some of it is so far fetched it’s just too much to take.

I have found fake emails, porn sites, and hook-up sites on his history two different times. He lied to me at first and tried deleting the emails from his phone while I was on the computer in his fake account. When he finally realized he was caught, he gave me a line about looking for his ex-wife to see what kind of deviant crap she was up to and watching porn to see what he could do to be more pleasing in the bedroom for me. Puh-lease. But whatever.

He does nothing around the house… unless he’s high on Hydros, then he’s all over the place. I feel like a housemaid. He wants a clean house. It bothers him if it’s not clean. But he doesn’t do a damn thing to help me with it on a normal day. If I ask him to do anything, I’m being a nag for bothering him on his day off. I have to throw a fit and act like a fool to get my point across and get him to help me out.

At home he just sits around and plays World of Warcraft. I can’t have a Facebook or any other social profile, I can’t have friends, I can’t post crap like this, but he can spend upwards of 12 hours a day talking and chatting to people in his fantasy world.

He’s an ass to my dogs.

I’m sick of being married to him. I hate the lies, the abuse, the double-standards, the control, and him. We’ve tried so many times to fix our marriage, but you can’t fix a psycho with a pill problem. I am disappointed that my marriage has turned into this. I made a lot of stupid mistakes with men before I got married and really hoped I would be able to live a Godly marriage and truly make it work. But all I want now is a divorce. I am sick of the sociopath I live with.

Husband not having sex with me!!!

We have been married for four years and have two lovely kids born 2011 Jan and 2013 Jan. My sex life however is far from lovely.
Right from the onset, my husband who is 40 (i am 36) would always give me excuses as to why he would not have sex with me. The excuses range from having a headache, to being stressed at work, to not being in the mood etc.

On our honeymoon in 2009, it was a struggle to have passionate sex with him as he just wasn’t into it.
After our first child, he stayed away from me for nine months and I gave up going to ask him for sex after numerous refusals. Now we have had our second child and it has been 7 months (made love for the first time this year last week though).

I really like my love, romance and intimacy but this dude ain’t giving me none of that and I cannot figure out why. Our last conversation this week, he revealed to me his two MAIN fears – 1) Why must everything with me lead to sex??
2) He is afraid he doesn’t satisfy me in bed (I HAVE NEVER COMPLAINED)

This new revelation has me at my wits end because I dont really know what to do again. Any help will do. I really DO NOT want to go outside to look for satisfaction:-(

Husband playing husband with his Ex Wife

I’m getting really annoyed with my husband playing husband with his ex-wife. She calls him asking for him to take her to the store every week. He says it’s for his daughters that they have together, but that doesn’t make sense. She lives just a couple of block from 2 different grocery stores. I’ve seen shopping carts on craigslist for $20, so it just doesn’t make any sense why he should have to take her. I would understand if he was taking his daughters, or if it was an emergency and she needed to go to the Dr. But she has even had him take her to her Dr. Apt. She had some kind of testing done (not that there’s anything wrong with her just preventative testing). She was put under, so when we went to go pick her up he told me that he might have to hold her up. Which really upset me. If I put him in the same situation with my ex husband he would have definitely had a problem with that! I’m just really getting frustrated. When I try to talk with him about it, he gets really REALLY defensive about his ex wife, which also really bothers me. I’m not sure if he just feels he needs to do her favors because he feels guilty, or worse if he still has feelings for her. If that’s so I wish he would just do me the favor and tell me that so I can stop wasting my life with someone that’s not putting me first.

My husband is horrible but thinks he is wonderful

My husband is the worst. He is not affectionate, he thinks I am disrespectful to him, when I work he takes 100% of the money. He doesn’t have sex with me, for years now. He is in a permanent bad mood. He gets mad at me for something he thinks I said that I didn’t even think. Whenever he tells me what I said he uses a horrible voice and face gestures. Plus he clogs the toilet in my bath room and doesn’t tell me so when I go in there I have a surprise waiting for me. Ick. So over him. The worst part is he thinks he is a really great husband.